General rules People who come into the #Healingroom
should be assured that this is a safe place to be. Each new person who
enters, or who is not recognized by the ops in the room will be first welcomed
into the room and then asked if he or she is new to the room, then asked if he
or she is a survivor. This is the extent of the questioning. We do not want to
make anyone feel as if they have no right to privacy, as this too is abusive.
These two questions are simply designed to ensure the safety of the room and
help us keep our common bond as a survivors group.
Persons who enter our room can expect to
have an op do a /whois on their nickname when they enter the room. This tells
them if anyone is in another channel that could be considered offensive to the
sensitivities of others in the channel and help us determine who is really safe
and who are playing games. If you are in other rooms deemed inappropriate
by the op, you will be asked to leave the other rooms or the #Healingroom.
If you refuse, you will be kicked out of our room. You will not be asked
to leave other "survivor related support rooms". We want you to have the
freedom to receive the support you need in the survivor community where you
might find it for yourself without our interference.
This is a "group" support forum. Any time our Unity as a group is jeopardized or threatened by any one, in
any way, for any reason it is considered a serious offense to the room as a
whole and will most likely result in the offender being banned from the
room permanently. Creating division, controversy, or chaos among our
group members will not be tolerated at all.
What is said in our room is to stay in
our room. It is not meant to be repeated to any one. Even
other group members that were not present at the time something was
said. The reason for this is we need an environment that honors
confidentiality 100%. To share what was said in our room by another
person, be it in email, Instant Messages, or Private Messages violates that
confidentiality. Also it has been our experience that someone repeating
something creates the potential to put their own spin or twist on it, either
knowingly or unknowingly and creates confusion.
In the #Healingroom,
please be aware that what you discuss may be upsetting or triggering to
others. While none of us can take responsibility for someone
else's mental or emotional condition, we all should take this into consideration
as we begin to share and watch to the best of our ability how what we are
sharing is effecting others in the room. Should there be any indication
that someone is having an adverse reaction to what is being shared, we ask that
you stop and a few of us will chat with you in private. As adult survivors
we do not wish to have an environment that says outwardly or silently, "don't
talk". We want you to talk, to feel free to discuss openly your past, your
thoughts and feelings. We only ask that you do so in a manner that
is considerate of one another.
Abusive language of any kind will not be tolerated in
room. If you have a problem or concern with someone else in the room, you
can message an op, or take it to a private message between yourself and that
person. The #healingroom is not the place to discuss difficulties you have
with one member with other room members.
Rumors, gossip or critisism are NOT what we
are here for. This behavior is abusive, and will not be allowed.
Do not argue with an op in the room who asks you to
change your nick, watch your language, or other such requests. If you have a
problem with what an op asks you to do, then please do as the op asked then
message them to discuss it. Do not argue or cause problems in room or you
will be kicked and banned if necessary. If you feel an op has treated you
unfairly, please email the founders at healingroom@email.com. If
you enter the room and need to talk or are having a hard time but don't want to
talk about it with everyone in the room, please ask an op, or group member you
trust and feel safe with to talk with you in private.
Please do not ask to be an op in the
#Healingroom. People are nominated for ops by other ops, and
provided they accept the nomination, they are put under observation for 30 days
to determine if the person would make a good op. The person nominated will
be aware of the nomination. After this observation period, if you are accepted,
you will be informed of the decision and trained. It is our sincere desire to
provide a safe and supportive place for survivors to help one another. We
do this by sharing our experience, strength, and hope with one another, and help
each other find the healing available to all of us.
Regarding communications related to
suicide and/or self injury... The #Healingroom is not a suicide hotline,
or crisis intervention center. We are not professionals and have no
training or certification in treating those who are being suicidal or self
injurious. However, we are required by law to render "Proper Aid" to
someone who has crossed the bridge from "feeling" suicidal or self injurious to
"being" suicidal or self injurious. Should an
Op feel that you are actively suicidal or self injurious (determined by
how you are expressing yourself in writing) you will be asked to leave the room
and call a crisis hotline, your therapist, or local hospital and seek immediate
intervention and care in your community, before returning to the
room. Failure to abide by the Ops request will result in your being
kicked and banned from the room pending your communication with the room founder
about your condition and what has or is being done locally to stabilize you.
Because we are not
with you physically, we cannot effectively intervene in any suicide or self
injurious attempts or behaviors. To allow you to sit in the room when its
obvious that you need to be getting immediate local treatment and be on your
phone with someone in your community is not providing you with Proper Aid.
We will not entertain or enable suicidal or self injurious behavior.
Healing and Recovery is about wanting to Live, not die. Its about self
care, not self harm.
Thank you in advance for reading and abiding by
these guidelines.
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